Few issues are as explosive in our society as those
involving gender, sexuality and marriage. The
Orthodox Christian addresses these issues within
the framework of the Church’s self-
understanding as the Bride of Christ. Whether the
issue at hand is gender identity, sexual freedom
or roles, or homosexual marriage, the answer lies
in the great mystery: Christ and the Church.
The peoples of the ancient world
frequently allowed sexual promiscuity, indulged
in gender-bending, and thought nothing of
homosexual behavior. Israel, however, stood
alone in rejecting these practices. The reason for
this lies in God’s revelation of Himself as being
radically distinct from His creation. Later, in
Christ, the true nature of marriage was revealed
as a way of unity with one another and with God.
The world was created ex nihilo—out of
nothing. Between the being of God and the being
of the world there is an irreducible gulf. The
world is not God, has never been God, and will
never be God. The fact that God has united
creation to Himself in the Incarnation in no way
destroys the distinction between the Uncreated
and the created. In Christ we participate in the
uncreated grace of God, becoming by that grace
what He is by nature, yet we never cease being
creatures; our created nature is never transformed
into the divine nature.
This difference between God and the world
is expressed iconically by the disexuality of
human nature. In the Divine Scriptures, God is
always represented by the male and creation by
expressed in marriage...
the female. God is the Bridegroom, and the
world—or more precisely, the Church, which is
the world recreated in Christ—is the Bride.1 God
could have created human beings as a single sex
with an asexual reproductive system. He could
have created human beings as bisexual. However,
He chose to make human nature disexual: So God
created man in His own image, in the image of God
created He him; male and female created He them
(Genesis 1:27). The difference between the male
and female reflects the difference between the
uncreated God and the created world.
The unity between God and creation is
expressed iconically by the Mystery of Marriage,
which existed from the very moment of man’s
creation. The male images forth God and the
female the world. This iconic relationship is
expressed in marriage in the proper relationship
between husband and wife. This is not a
declaration of male superiority. While the
husband is the head of the household, this is a
position of responsibility and self-sacrifice, and it
is relational, communal, not fiat. The wife
subjugates her will to the husband, and the
husband subjugates his will to the good of the
family. In this way the egoism of both partners is
overcome. Both learn to live in and with and for
the other, experiencing in this life a foretaste of
the eternal Trinitarian communion.
At the Fall, man subverted the divine order
of creation. By eating of the fruit, man, as creation,
tried to usurp God’s place, thereby being the first
in a long line to attempt to subvert the disexuality of human nature and its iconic expression of
creation’s relation and difference to God.
Marriage, as God created it, was also a victim.
Let’s look more closely at these two iconic
images and their distortions.
The inherent disexuality of human nature
and its iconic relationship to Christ and the
Church explains the Church’s attitude toward
homosexual desire and marriage. Notice the
context in which St. Paul addresses this issue:
‘Who changed the truth of God into the lie, and
worshipped and served the creature more than the
Creator, Who is blessed forever. For this cause God
gave them up unto vile affections: for even their
women did change the natural use into that which is
against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the
natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one
toward another; men with men working that which is
unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense
of their error which was meet’ (Romans 1:25-27).
For St. Paul, homosexual desire is not only
a result of the Fall, it is actually paradigmatic of
the Fall, much in the same way that marriage is
paradigmatic of Christ’s saving relationship to the
Church. It is clear, therefore, that the Church
cannot bless homosexual activity or same-sex
marriage. Human sexuality can be rightly
expressed only in Holy Matrimony between a
man and a woman, or in celibacy.
In Christ the true nature of marriage is
revealed; marriage, as an experience of
communion with God and with one’s spouse, is
an end in and of itself. To understand this,
however, we must first understand the nature
and purpose of man’s sexual drive.
Among the natural faculties or energies of
man is the erotic power, the power of sexual
desire. In the animal kingdom this desire
guarantees the survival of the species. In human
beings, however, this desire is related directly to
the realization of the image of God within us.
Archimandrite George writes:
‘But what—more than anything else—
manifests the imprint of God on the human soul is the
power of desire (eros) within the soul...and the
impetus which a sanctified eros lends the soul in its
movement towards its divine archetype. The Saints,
especially Maximus the Confessor and Dionysius the
Areopagite, understand this power of eroticism as not
referring simply to human sexual desire. To put it
better, the sexual urge is an expression of that natural
yearning which is implanted within us by our Creator,
and leads us toward Him’ (The Eros of Repentance,
pp. 2-3).
Thus, according to the Holy Fathers, our
sexual desire is but a manifestation of the deeper
desire of the soul for union with God. The Song of
Songs is an erotic poem that was accepted into the
canon of the Hebrew and Christian Scriptures
precisely because human eros is fundamentally a
thirst for the divine. The human soul longs to say
of her God: My Beloved is mine, and I am His (Song
of Songs 2:16).
When man fell, his natural energies
became corrupted. We do not experience
sexuality as God created it, but as a passion that
rules our life. We are so used to this situation that
we have come to consider our deviancies as
normal.
Sexual passion is one of the primary
expressions of fallen man’s egoism. Sex becomes a
tool by which we gain dominance over others.
Through the eyes of lust, others cease to be
personal subjects—bearers of the divine image—
and become objects of our inordinate desires. We
perceive ourselves, individually, to be the center
of the universe. All others exist in order to fulfill
our desires.
It is significant that before the Fall Adam
and Eve had no knowledge of their nakedness:
And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and
were not ashamed (Genesis 2:25). It was not until
their transgression that they realized they had no
clothes. What happened? They ceased to look
upon one another with that purity of vision with
which they were originally created. The other
became an object of lust.
Our sexual drive was given to us by God
and is good by nature; it is the misuse of that
desire that is sinful. There are two ways whereby
our erotic energies are sanctified and returned to
their proper state: celibacy and marriage.
A purpose of Christian marriage is to focus
our sexual energies on one person as long as we
live. We should not think of marriage as the
‘legalization’ of a desire that is otherwise sinful.
Rather, we must understand the positive,
transformative power of marriage. What is more,
that relationship is suppose to uphold the iconic
expression of our disexuality—the dual realities
of our difference from God and of our unity with
God.
It has been said in recent times that man is
not naturally either monogamous nor
heterosexual. This, of course, is a misuse of the
term natural. What we often consider ‘natural’ is
the state of fallen or sub-nature. Indeed, it is
difficult for fallen man to be monogamous, and
sometimes to be heterosexual. Through the
Mystery of Holy Matrimony, however, divine
grace is given to the couple that their marriage
may be a means of returning to what is truly
natural and in accord with God’s purpose for our
creation. Marriage, then, is an iconic
transformation of our sexual desires.
More than this, though: marriage is an
iconic transformation of our relationship with
God. The order that was subverted at the Fall is
re-ordered in our lives. A pure marriage
reinstitutes the relationships between male and
female and between man and God as they were
before the Fall. The couple now iconically images
both the distinction between God and His
creation, and the communion creation can have
with its God and Creator. This ‘iconic’ role is not
pretty imagery to whitewash our ‘Christian’
concept of gender relations. Man’s desire, his eros,
is now directed back toward God, where it is
meant to be pointing.
All that has been said thus far is merely an
analytical description of the Church’s biblical
understanding of marriage: in terms of Creation,
Fall, sexuality and Salvation. I readily admit its
shortcomings. The Mystery of Marriage is most truly
communicated in living it out before God and one another.
Our daily attempts to overcome self-will, to tame our
passions, to love one another as Christ has loved us—these
are the means of our powerfully redirecting our eros; these
are the ways men and women heal the relationship creation
has with its Creator; these are the deep and significant
assertions of our creatureliness and yet of our communion
with God and with one another.
- Fr. Matthew
1. God, of course, is neither male nor female; He is beyond
all such created concepts. Nevertheless, He has given us
certain images and concepts whereby we have come to
know Him. Though these concepts can never fully describe
or define the indescribable God, we are nonetheless bound
by them.
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